You’re a woman, and you’ve probably been in a few relationships. That may make you think that you’ve probably got a pretty good idea of what men really want in a relationship. If you’ve recently broken up with your significant other though, maybe you don’t know as much as you thought you did. Not to worry though, just below we’ll take the mystery out of what men are really after.
First Things First…
It’s probably not what you think. If you’re like most women, you’ve been conditioned to believe that men are “only after one thing.” We’re talking about sex, of course, and it’s true. Men like sex. Women likes sex. Everybody likes sex, because after all, what’s not to like?
It’s an important part of any healthy relationship, but it’s actually NOT one of the major things men want out of a long term relationship. Consider sex and intimacy in general to be the glue that helps keep a relationship strong and vibrant. It’s essential, but it’s not one of the things we’re talking about here. But if not sex, what then?
Guys need their space, and honestly, you need yours too. An independent woman doesn’t need a man to complete her, she simply chooses someone to spend and share her life with. That’s what you need to aspire to be. In the context of a relationship, that means maintaining your own interests.
It’s okay, and in fact, necessary to have your own interests and your own space inside the relationship. You don’t have to spend every waking moment together, and if you do, you’ll probably wind up driving each other crazy.
2. A Genuine Woman
You know what men find sexier than almost anything else? A woman who’s genuinely comfortable in her own skin. A woman who knows who she is, and who is absolutely okay with that person. She knows what she wants, she knows what she likes, and she won’t settle for less. If you don’t like it? If you try to change her? You’re history.
Ask yourself, are you that woman? If you’re not, then you need to start taking steps today to become her. Really spend some time thinking about who you are and what you want out of life, then start living your life in a way that celebrates and nourishes those things you’ve discovered about yourself.
Part of that means, by necessity, cutting people out of your life who keep trying to change you and make you into something you’re not. If they can’t love you for who you are, you don’t need them and it’s time to let them go.
3. An Assertive Woman
Assertiveness is sexy. Assertive women aren’t shy about expressing their feelings. They know what they want and they’re not ashamed to come right out and say it. When people compliment them, they’ve got enough confidence to accept the compliment with grace.
Think about the last time you got a compliment. Did you smile and say thank you, or did you deflect. For instance, if someone commented on how nice you look in your new dress, did you smile and thank them for it, or did you blush and mumble something about needing to lose ten pounds and looking fat? Men love confident, assertive women.
There are others of course. Men aren’t so shallow as to only be drawn to these three things, but I promise you that if you have all three of these, or even any two of the three, all men, everywhere, will find you incredibly alluring, including the one you want to win back.
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